Being a parent is one of the hardest jobs in the world...and sometimes, we are our own worst critics. How many times have you asked yourself, "Am I doing everything I can to be a good parent?"
Here are some strategies you can implement today to increase your effectiveness in the role of parent:
1. Hug your child. Feeling loved and safe helps your child build confidence and a sense of worth. Physical affection is important. Your child also needs to hear, "I love you."
2. Monitor your child. It helps ensure safety and it shows that you care. Young children need to be watched constantly. Play with your child, too. As children get older, know where they are, who they are with, and where they are going. Get to know your child's friends and their parents. Encourage friendships built around healthy interests and values.
3. Notice and reward good behavior. When you give your child praise and attention for good behavior, it encourages more of that behavior. Avoid "rewarding" only bad behavior with your attention.
4. Be consistent. Consistency reassures the child and is an important component of discipline. Set and stick to a regular routine for bedtime, meals, and homework, for example. Always follow through with consequences you've set for unacceptable behavior.
5. Set a good example. Let your child see you putting your values into practice. Be kind, honest, respectful, fair, and hard-working. Handle strong emotions, disagreements or other problems in healthy ways. For example, think before reacting to something your child does. Choose your actions with care.
6. Challenge your child. This helps him or her build confidence and independence. Give the child a chance to try new things, solve problems, and learn from mistakes. Children need responsibilities and goals.
7. Talk with your child. Stay connected and be aware of what the child is thinking, feeling, and doing. Ask about what he or she learned at school and did with friends.
8. Foster good health. Make sure your child gets three healthy meals a day, plenty of sleep, and at least 60 minutes of moderate to vigorous physical activity.
9. Read together. Read to younger children and let older children read to you.
10. Take care of your own mind, body, and spirit. This will help you maintain your energy. Ask for breaks when you need it. Get professional advice on parenting issues when you need to.
We all need to be reminded of these things. Feel free to share these hints and tips with the families you work with.
